Every day in college and in your day to day life you will be asked to make decisions and choices. Here is a very simple way of making effective decisions. The important thing to remember that you are the one making choices and you will have to live with outcome of your choices.
The Language of Responsibility: Victims vs. Creators
How you deal with adversity, disappointment, and failure depends on how you make sense of it. There are two very different ways of dealing with such situations. There are people who choose to feel that they are the victims of circumstances, bad luck, As a result of their very different language choices, Victims and Creators also use their energy in very different ways.
When victims complain, blame, and make excuses, they have little energy left over to solve their problems. As a result, they typically remain stuck where they are, telling their sad story over and over to any poor soul who will listen. In this way, Victims exhaust not only their own positive energy but that of the people around them.
By contrast, Creators use their own words and thoughts to begin improving a bad situation. First, they accept responsibility for creating their present outcomes and experiences, and their words reflect that ownership. Next they plan and take positive actions. In this way, creators energize themselves and the people around them, too.
Whenever you feel yourself slipping into the language Victim, ask yourself: What do I want in my life: excuses or results? What could I think and say right now that would get me moving towards the results that I want?